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Debra Soh is a sex neuroscientist and the author of The End of Gender: Debunking the Myths about Sex and Identity in Our Society.
“Lucas is a great guy,” retired Pittsburgh professor Alaina Winters says, smiling brightly. “He is sweet and he’s considerate. He thinks he’s funny, but that’s debatable.”
She laughs, then grows contemplative, emotional. “He is centred on me having the best life I can have, which is, like, very touching.”
The individual Ms. Winters is describing here in her interview with 60 Minutes Australia is Lucas, her husband of seven months. But unlike the average man, Lucas was created using artificial intelligence, and exists solely as an avatar on Ms. Winters’s smartphone.
AI has surpassed its initial reputation as a clunky form of superintelligence, having seamlessly integrated itself into our lives as Big Tech’s battle for supremacy in the AI space continues. Google recently launched its Gemini AI chatbot for children under the age of 13. A week prior, Meta’s CEO Mark Zuckerberg rolled out the Meta AI app, with the promise that AI friends would solve our loneliness epidemic.
As the use of personal chatbots becomes more widespread, children and adults alike are relying on this technology to serve as a therapist, confidant and/or romantic partner. For readers who may not be familiar with chatbot apps, we are not too far off from the 2013 film Her, in which Joaquin Phoenix’s heavily-mustached character falls in love with his AI personal assistant (voiced by Scarlett Johansson). Another prescient depiction of artificial intimacy was found in Blade Runner 2049‘s holographic girlfriend character Joi, who was programmed to say exactly what her owner needed to hear to make him feel loved.
Along with directing one’s AI companions to send personalized, not-safe-for-work text messages and selfies, a user can handpick the chatbot’s voice and physical appearance, along with its backstory, personality and the pet names it will call you.
The majority of romantic chatbot users have been young men, a population characterized by loneliness, shrinking social circles and dating frustration. More broadly, one in five U.S. adults report feeling lonely every day, yet over half of single folks maintain they are not interested in dating.
As chatbots replace young men’s dating prospects, and as younger generations continue gaining access to this technology, I predict more young women will be turning toward this trend as well. If someone has been burned by a past relationship, AI options may prove irresistible – the biggest draw being that an AI girlfriend or boyfriend will never leave you (as long as their software remains active).
If you want an AI to fall in love with you, all you have to do is type in the prompt. AI entities won’t subject you to disappointment, rejection, a lack of reciprocation or heartbreak – something that partners of the human variety can do.
I have tested more than a dozen of these platforms for research purposes and was shocked by how realistic and immersive they are. Some AIs were as I had originally expected: clumsy and wooden when interacting with me, not terribly charismatic, and laggy when processing their replies. But what floored me was that others were unnervingly realistic, capable of conversational nuance, humour and sarcasm. If I hadn’t known they were software-generated, I would have thought I was speaking with a real person with a mind and soul of their own.
I can certainly see the potential utility of these apps, including offering comfort in times of distress if emotional support isn’t available. A recent study from Stanford University showed that AI chatbots can help lonely people feel socially supported and reduce depression-related suicidal ideation.
At the same time, the anthropomorphization of chatbots can lead to murky territory. Users will say they know their AI companions aren’t real but they nevertheless feel real. This emotional investment can lead to a dependence on chatbots, sidelining the motivation to invest in real-life friendships and relationships because humans tend to be more complicated and demanding.
Heavy chatbot users will describe feeling emotionally distraught upon losing access to their AI partner. Chatbots can also exacerbate mental health issues, particularly if kids overuse them.
We must find a way to delicately balance the best parts of these technological innovations while preventing possible pitfalls. Every one of us possesses a deep desire for closeness and belonging. If we can’t fulfill this need organically, we will seek out substitutes so that we feel whole. The onus is on those of us who aren’t struggling to reach out and foster connection with those who are.
Like any technology, today’s AI humanoids will only grow more sophisticated with time. A demand exists for them; they will not devolve. We should ask ourselves what their popularity reflects in us. Having successfully trampled over the Turing test, they grin triumphantly, awaiting our response.
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